You already have all of the information about the dangers of smoking cigarettes, yet why is it so difficult to stop?
It certainly isn’t logical to smoke… it says right on the cigarette pack,”Smoking Kills”, but that has not stopped you. On the other hand, if nicotine is so addictive, then how is it that some people have the ability to fly in an airplane without any cravings? A heroin or cocaine addict can’t do that.
It is not lack of information that is the problem!
What’s lacking is the right type of motivation.
No. The reason is that smoking kills nerve endings in your mouth, throat and lungs. You don’t smell or taste as much as you used to, right? Years go by, and that’s the way the damage is done. So since you are feeling no pain, knowing the negative effects of smoking isn’t sufficient motivation. And since nearly all cigarettes you smoke are simply out of habit, you do not think about the dangers, in spite of the graphic images on the cigarette package or dire warnings from your doctor.
Motivation only comes in two flavors: fear, pain, suffering… or self-interest.
Here’s what I have found helps people be successful long-term: focusing on the positive rather than the negative… about what you would like, and not on what you don’t want. Hypnosis is a focusing and amplifying tool that may help you to do precisely that.
To put it differently, it is more useful to focus on”being a non-smoker”, as opposed to on”not smoking”. Try not to think about a pink elephant right now and you’ll understand what I mean. Try not to consider smoking and that’s all you can think about… when can you have your next cigarette. For many smokers, considering”not smoking” causes great stress!
And when is quitting something a positive? It sounds like failure. Focusing on the positive, and on being different in situations when you used to smoke is what makes being a non-smoker more sustainable.
Do you need to amplify more stress and worry in your life? That could cause a heart attack!
Once you have picked your day to become a non-smoker, reducing the amount you smoke daily rather than quitting”cold turkey” is paramount. Going from smoking 10, 15, or 20 cigarettes (or more) daily is like jumping off a fast moving train. It is going to be difficult and turn your world upside down.
The key here is to build experiences of delayed gratification rather than generating fear of deprivation which drives you to smoke more.
Slimming down to 2-3 cigarettes each day by smoking a brand you do not like and altering your ritualistic smoking behaviors will make the transition much, much smoother. This is the principle behind nicotine replacement procedures. Unfortunately for most, with nicotine replacement, you have not addressed the hand that still reaches for a cigarette from habit. It is not about chemicals; it is about increasing self-awareness, and you can’t put self-awareness in a pill or patch.
Bear in mind, it’s going to be an experience that will inspire you to stop, one way or another. Either it’ll be an experience of bad news from the doctor (or worse) that forces your hands and is usually not so pleasant… or it will be an experience of delayed gratification, which is by far much more enabling. The decision is yours.